The man's fear

It is definitely fear that prevents men from going the path of their heart. Likewise, prevents women from only overcoming the paths these are, due to the polarity of the sexes, different. Because with men, the heart is the most vulnerable pole, the negative pole. Just as the woman can only give herself to the man when she feels secure and safe, through the protected space that he offers her, the man also needs a safe emotional framework in order to verbally express his feelings. Just as most men unfortunately urge women to open their wombs and fail to understand due to lack of maturity that sexual union only leads to ecstasy when women give themselves away voluntarily, so most women in turn urge men to emotionally close themselves open, which only leads to them closing even more!

The fact that they have always suppressed their emotions due to socialization often turns communication into a show of aggression and frustration. And initiation rites for men, thanks to which they face their fears and emotions, our society does not know. The need for protection of the male heart is also very different from that of the woman. What is more, it is not recognized at all in society, even taboo. Nobody will deny that women have been and still are exposed to physical and, above all, sexual (their negative, vulnerable pole) violence and abuse for millennia. The men were just as emotionally hurt and abused by both sexes, mind you! Very few people see and perceive this because it is not visible. The effects are just as devastating. In men, this leads to conflict, splitting off feelings and identity crises and, of course, fears, which the woman does not know in this way and to this extent.

Because the woman is embedded in nature, yes she is nature. She experiences the fullness that she is in and through nature. And it forms the man's bridge to nature because he himself is not at home in it. Just like the man is the woman's bridge to the spirit. «A woman's highest calling is to lead a man to his soul so that he can connect with his source. Man's highest calling is to protect woman so that she may walk the earth free and unharmed." This well-known Cherokee saying is very wise and partly true. Only a woman is able to awaken the male spirit, to shape it, to lead it to the origin of being, becoming and passing away, to be the lighthouse in its night sea voyages that prevents its soul ship from crashing on many a rock.

Only, without his ego death and the opening of his heart that comes with it, he will constantly be afraid of being swept away into the depths of female nature and sexuality. That's why Mike Ruppoldt writes: "If he accepts the inevitability of death. When in death he finds his ally, not his enemy. Then he is finally able to express his true self. A man is not capable of living until he accepts that he is already dead." Then the woman also becomes an ally. She will always be energetically more powerful than him, but now he no longer sees it as a threat to his identity, no longer as a drag, but as a connection with the roots of life itself. For the first time his restless spirit feels something like home. And this home is love.

Man learns the essence of eros through and only through woman. He will continue to stumble in his thirst for creation and freedom, maybe make mistakes or make wrong decisions, but he trusts both women and life, now knows that the same creative spirit resides in nature as in himself. He knows , he is caught, both by life and by the loving arms of the woman he loves. The man is not a lone wolf, he needs the woman just as she needs him. But his world is not relationship, but meaning and spirit and connected with it - his mission. Without the woman he will never be able to accomplish it. Only in what he fears most, in the intimate relationship with the woman, does he find redemption.

- Goran Ivetic